In the dating jungle, people lie all the time. However, depending on how skilled they are, it can be difficult to determine when someone is lying to you. Do you know how to recognise the signs that someone is lying to you? Yours truly and my ‘committee of eminent persons’ were taken through a ‘detect liar crash course’ by a psychologist over a drink.
The good psychologist said that some of the signs are obvoious while others are more sublimi-nal, but there are ways to catch someone who likes lying.
A person who is lying to you won’t make eye contact with you or they make too much eye contact. I believe many men have faced this situation in the course of their love life. According to the psychologist, women are the best liars!
When one is lying, they might feel you are scrutinising them, and they will look down at the floor or away from your eyes. Some try to stare you in the face in a deliberate way because they feel like making eye contact will make what they are saying more beliavable.
Liars avoid using contractions. And when you corner a liar, especially a woman, they will ask a question like, “where did you get that information?” While they try to back pedal and come up with an explanation for your question.
Liars adopt weird body language. Liars mighy fidget, turn away from the person to whom they are speaking, blink rapidly, smile less and have pitch changes in their tone of voice.
They may cross their armd, which is a sign of being ‘closed,’ or trying not to reveal too much information.
Sometimes people fidget excessively when they are lying.
They could fidgt with a part of their body or touch parts of their face, an ear or a nose or play with keys or another item that they have in their hand.
Liars provide additional infor-mation without being asked for it. They seem to think that by embellishing their story you will find it more beliavable.
The more elaborate the story, the more likely that it is a fabrication and nothing near the truth. A person who is tellinh a lie will get defensive. They will do everyth-ing in their power to deflect your attentipn away from themselves. And will get angry that you are questioning their innocence.
People who are telling the truth tend to go the opposite way, and go on the offense.
This will become obvious to you when you are trying to have a conversation with a person and they try to change the subject or move the conversation in a diffe-rent direction. If a person is lying they tend to over-embelish insig-nificant details while avoiding important ones.
Some of my friends do this all the time. Their stories are mysteri-ous as they tend to be deep where they shouldn’t and shalpw where they should have more information.
When the psychologist said this, I shot Jemo a look and he looked down and I knew I had nailed the bugger!
So gentlemen, please learn to detect a liar early enough so that you can then detach yourself from her, before you invest a life’s saving in a stranger.