Have you been convinced that he isn’t intrested in you anymore — and then discovered that he is still crazy about you? Or been told that you are not being supportive, when you honestly trying to be “Best Partner Ever”? Ever looked back on a relationship and wondered what caused it to fall apart?
Relationship are extremely important to us, yet we seem remarkably poor at understanding how they work. Some relationship gurus pinpoint openness, honesty, trust and communication as the fundamental factors for a fulfilling, lasting relationship. Others talk about duty, commitment and faithfulness.
Marriage counsellor Dr Willard F Harleu Jr suggests that gender is a major factor in deciding what we consider necessary factors for a great relationship. In his book, His Needs, Her Needs, Harley puts foward the idea that most men rank the following as the five fundamental needs:
1. Sexual fulfilment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
Most women feel their most basic needs are:
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment