Why do some people take advantage of other?
Why do some people use others to reach their own goals?
Why would someone date someone else then dumping after he reaches a certain goal?
The first that will come to your mind when you try to answer such queations is that the people who do these actions are mean.
I do agree with your conclusion but from a psychological point of view, why do some people become that mean while others dont?
And why do some people never feel like using others even though they might gain many benefits it they di so?
Here is a quick answer, the way some people develope their personalities forces them to use others in order to maintain mental stability.
Any sane human being will use the path of least effort to archieve his psychological goal and unmet needs. When a person attempts to take advantage of anothers person he will usually experience some kind of inner resistance and thats why many people don’t feel comfortable about using others. Now when a person find no other way to reach his goals but ti use others then he might start taking advantage of them. In other words the person who uses you is actually the hopeless one.
2. Lack of control over his own life
When a human being loses control of his life he usually starts to find other alternative ways that can help him feel in control. For example, some people develope sadism because it helos them feel powerful and in control. One popular way of feeling in control of one’s life is controlling others. In othet words the oerson who is taking advantage of you might not have been able to control his own life abd that why he is using you to restore his mental balance.
Many people feel inferior to othe and believe that they are totally worthless. People compensate for this inferiority in different ways, some of them become arrogant, othera claim that they don’t like to interact with people while throught might might be using others. When a person takes advantage of another, he might feel superior to him and as a result compensate for his feeling of insecurity.
4. Narcissim, codependency and double standards
Narcissits and codependent people might use others in order to calm down their insecurities and feel better about themselves. In order not to feel guilty or experience shame those people try to convince themselves that some people deserve to be taken advantage if. The double standards helps those who take advantage of other feel better and face those who point fingers at them.