Associate yourself with people of good quality for its better to be alone than in bad company.
In this digital age, technology has made it easier for us to be and stay conbected to your social circle, even when you don’t get to see them in person that often. We are heavily influenced by the people around us, even when we are unaware of it – thats a fact that has been documented in a book. In this article we have listed 12 types of fake people to be wary of.
If you want to change your life, good start is to audit your social circle and ideally only surround yourself with people whose values and goals in life align with yours. The first type of toxic people that you need to identify is the fakers or phoneys- the most insufferable of all. They come in different forms and their motivation vary.
We have listed these types of fake people that you should cut from your life immediately. And if that is not possible in your current circumstances, dont worry, we’ve also covered the strategy you easily employ to deal with them.
1. The sycophants:
The ones who think only people with power are worth respecting
They are very selective when it comes to respecting other. They try to get close to the Big fish to pave their way to success and dismiss those they deem unimportant.
They will agree with everything and say the rights just to stay on the good side of people with power.
One way to deal with them is to call them out during the act itself, which is probably on everybody else mind. If the situation occurs in an office meeting and the person is agreeing with the Boss’s idea tjat you know will not work, voice out your concern and ask the person to elaborate on how he plans to the idea work which he probably can’t.
The key is to keep your words and tone tactful.
It is not about who is real to your face. It us about who stays real behind your back.
2. The braggers: The ones who brag to feel important
They wilk boast about things that may not necessarily be true and tend to exaggerate a lot.
They will go to great lengths to impress others so they can feel good abiut themselves. They especially like to show off materialistic things.
Before wr get to the ways to manage the braggers, its best we first look inward and ask ourselves this- what is the real reason for our discomfort? Are we just being envious of the person?
If it is clear that the braggers are making everyone else uncomfortable as well, try to find a few of their redeeming qualities and genuinely praise them.
It’s clear to everyone exept the braggers, that they are trying to overcompensate for their lack of self esteem.
By making them believe that they do possess qualities that deserve respect, they are less likely to resort to bragging in order to feel good about themselves next time. If it doesn’t work, try to casual slip in the conversation that while you feel happy for the good fortune of others, you are not the type of person that is easily impressed by that.
Hopefully the bragger will get the memo:
Dont waste your time on the fake people in life. You will get caught up in their lies and push away who stayed true to you.
3. The people pleasers:
The ones who would do anything to get people like them
They go out of their way to please others just to be liked. They need a sense of acceptance, even if it means they have to pretend to flatter or agreee with someone.
Most of the times, they do not do it out of malice, rather its syems from an extreme need or anxiety to get on everyone’s good sides. However, it can be rather off-putting to hear the people-pleasers rave on and on a bout something or someone that doesn’t reflect their actual opinion.
In this case, help them out. Invite them to be open about their feeling s with you. Tell them yiu appreciate honesty over glazef-ovet half-truths and that being served with anything less than that equals to being disrespected.
Truth is earned, respect is given abd loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one of those is lose to all three.
4. The attention-seakers:
The ones who constantky seek attention.
They arw usually loud because they are desparate for attention. They try to make everything about them and want to be included in every conversation.
They are always want to be nited and think the world resolves around them.
The attention-seekers may be the easiest tyoe of fake people to deal with! By giving them the exact opposite of what they are craving for, which is attention, they will run out of steam stooner or later and will move on the next targets.
Trust is the glue of life. Its the most essential ingredient on effective communication. Its the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
5. The shape-shifters
The ones who create new personalities to feel accepted.
They want to be accepted hy the society because they are insecure and lack self-esteem. They try to be a totally person just to fit in.
They can be sweet one minute and louud the next. They can pretend to be interested in something they are not just to be liked.
This behaviour is typically in people withvlow self-esteem and mirroring of others in just their(lame) attempt of trying to fit in and be accepted. If this particulat behaviourvmakes its appearance only when the shapr shifter is around certain individual – those that he tries to impress – pull him aside and let him be aware of the sitiation.
Encourage him to be authentic and tell him that others can usually see right through the facade.
True friends are always there for you. Fake friends only appear when they need something from you.
6. The Little Miss Sunshines:
Those ones who try too hard to convince people that they are happy.
They tend to porray the illusion that they are living the perfect life. They make it seem as if they are always happy even when they hve trouble at home.
They would rather keep things hidden in the closest than let others know about the uglytruth that lies beneath.
This is evident in their perfectly curated instagram feed, that is filled with travel adventions, heartfelt tributes to their loving partner and pictures tagged #blessed.
Okay we get it – you’re extremely happy. But research has shown that genuinely:
Happy people are busy enjoying their life. That they need to convince others( and themselves) of their happiness via the number of the likes they recieve on their social media posts.
More often than not , they are just maskin the struggles that they are going through. With this understanding what you can do is wish the person welk and scroll on walk away. If you feel like tjat is not much of a solution, perhaps the problem lies deeper and a self-reflection is due.
Many people will walk in and out out of your life, but only true friends will leavw foot prints in your heart
7. The fantastic:
The ones who share intereating stories that are not 100% true.
They will make something sound a hundred times better than it actually is.
They use social media as a tool to show off their perfect travel experiences and hide any mishpas that they maty may have encountered during the trip.
When they come back, get ready for tales of adventures that sound like tkey are lifted right of the pages of friction novels_ which they probably are.
While you may not want to sound confrontational by calling them on their fibs, it may be the only way to call attention to their annoying behaviour. Just remember to keep a level head and merely point out facts or discrepancies that they may have forgotten.
Be prpared to have the fantasists pulls on a defensive mode but it’ll serve as a reminder the next time he feels like emblishing his stories for you.
Knowing your circle. Nake sure everybody in your “boat” is rowing and nit drilling holes when you are not watching.
8. The gossip mongers:
The ones who thrive on gossips
They are often two faced. They can be nice today and then gossip about you next day.
They just love to gossip because it makes them feel important. They crave for attention and they think having juicy gossips to tell would make them interesting to others.
The reason you should be very wary of people who love to goossip is you can be sure that once you leave the room, you will have the the target behind your back.
The first thing you can do is to not partake in the gossiping itself. What drwas people in is the strong energy, albeit a negative one, surrounding ajuicy gossip. Attempt to diffuse the negative energyby injecting a few positive comments about the person they are discussing.
If that doesn’t work, tell them point blank that it is innappropruate to discuss the person in such a manner.
Before excuse yourself you may risk being left out after this, but who need gossip mongers in their lives anyway .
Be very carefully of pwople whose words don’t match their actions. Be carefully of who you vent to: a listening ear could alamso be a running mouth.
9. The disparagers:
The ones who bring people down
They will try to find faults in the happines of others to make themselves feel better. They will point out something negative even where theirs none.
Some would do anything to make other people look bad just so they can look good.
They disparagers thrive on a willing set of audience, so dont be one. If he is genuinely facing a crisis with the person and is looking for advice acknowledge their frustration and suggest that he takes up the matter directly with the person involved.
Then to avoid any awkwardness, change the course of the conversation to move positive topic.
You can’t always go by actions because some people act like they love you to get what get what they want from you.
10. The grouches:
The ones who complain about everything
You can count on the grouch to sap off your energy like a vampire.
Just the sight of them walking tiwards you with a fown, or their name appearing on your phone screen, is enough to make you emotionally drained.
They have keen eyes for details and that’s not a bad thing if they can also see the good as well as the bad in any given sitiuation.
First of all, make them feel heard. Tell them you feel the same way if you were in the same situation- this will pave their willingness to partake the next step with you, which is to invite them to consider things from another point of view.
Sometimes, all it takes is offering them a different perspective that their clouded brain is not being able to see on its own.
Pay close attention to the people who don’t clap when you win.
11. They know-it-all:
The ones who claim to be an expert in everything but never follow anything through.
They seem to know everything exept for admitting this:
“I don’t know” They believe they are the go-to person for everything.
But the most influriating characteristics of theirs has got to be their unwillingness to even consider other people’s opinions and ideas. Which makes it a real problem if they happen to be your co-workers.
In the battle, there can be two possible favourable outcomes. Eitr you’re able to prove you are right or you win the overall battle. Sometimes, if your job and reputation are not astake, you maybe doing yourself a big favour by thanking the known-it-all for their input and calmly walking away.
The know it all may think they are in thcee right, but its you eho wins the battle- for saving yoursleurself from having to go through the seemingly endless and pointless debate with them.
Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.
12. The Backstabbers:
The ones who are friendly to your face but turn on you to get get ahead.
They may abut tricky to profile at first as they will only reveal themselves after the knives are already stuck in your back.
If you realize that you have been a victim of backstabbers its is important for you to take time to compose yourself. Do not react when your wounds are fresh and your anger is still consuming.
And then comes the damage control _if the situation put your Reputation or other important relationship on the line, you need to take care of that first. Own up to your own mistakes, which may include oversharing confidentual and toungue-in-check information with each ither, that has since been used aganaist you.
And finally, cut them out of your life immediately. They do not deserve to keeep someone who will drag you down in your life.